Chances are, you've heard about Internet dating from a friend, or an online banner ad has caught your eye. If you've given online dating a passing consideration, you may have some fears from all those graphic horror stories that jar your senses – and your sensibilities. Or you may think that meeting people via the Internet is only for the disenfranchised or socially unskilled.
From their own experiences, 20 million people can tell you otherwise. Online Dating For Dummies will get you off the fence and on the Internet dating path – with the skill of a seasoned pro. Like your best friend, this fun reference will give you the straight scoop on
- Gearing up with the right computer hardware
- Overcoming preconceived notions of who is online
- Talking the online lingo
- Enjoying conversation in chat rooms
- Considering date site options
- Establishing your screen identity
- Facing the consequences of not posting a photo
Internet dating is growing at double-digit rates every year, while other forms of finding a connection are flat or falling off. Internet dating, although far from perfect, is becoming the most effective and efficient method of getting introduced to a large number of available singles. Online Dating For Dummies shows you how to get your feet wet and how to dive in, making informed choices and exercising good judgment as you
- Sign up for a trial run on a dating site
- Try to describe yourself for your personal profile
- Initiate your first e-mail contact
- Make your first in-person meeting memorable
- Identify frauds and players
- Figure out what not to do if you really want to meet someone
Jumping into online dating with no preparation at all is possible – but not practical. If you follow the techniques in this friendly guide, your odds of meeting great potential matches will greatly improve, and you'll have far more fun in the process.
- Amazon Sales Rank: #820225 in Books
- Brand: Brand: For Dummies
- Published on: 2003-11-21
- Original language:
- Number of items: 1
- Dimensions: 9.30" h x
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- Binding: Paperback
- 312 pages
- ISBN13: 9780764538155
- Condition: New
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"...covers strategies for success, including how to choose an agency, respond to potential dates and cultivate a relationship on-line..." (Aberdeen Press & Journal, Dec 03)
From the Back Cover
Know the lingo, post a photo, and make a date
Date online and find the perfect mate
Looking for that special someone? This friendly guide provides practical, proven strategies for everything from selecting the right dating site and establishing your Internet identity to building your profile and protecting your privacy. You’ll see how to easily make the transition from e-mail to phone to meeting in person.
Includes special offers* from these dating sites:
- Yahoo! Personals: 25% off the first month
- match.com: Free 10-day trial
- AmericanSingles.com: Buy one month, get a second month free
- JDate.com: Buy a three-month subscription, get a fourth month free
- Emode.com: Free 7-day trial
- lavalife.com: Free sign-up, plus a 25% bonus on a first purchase
- one2onematch.com: $20 off a VIP membership
- date.com: one, free trial membership
*See back of book pages for details and terms of each offer
Discover how to:
- Choose an online dating service
- Write an honest, flattering description
- Respond to potential dates
- Know who the frauds are
- Cultivate a relationship online
- Stay safe when meeting face-to-face
About the Author
Judith Silverstein, MD, and Michael Lasky, JD, not only wrote this book together, but they actually found each other through online dating.
Most helpful customer reviews
2 of 2 people found the following review helpful.
Handy Guide for Adventure
By Edward G. Simmons
The authors, who met each other through online dating, encourage a positive sense of adventure while guiding newbies through the basics of online dating. There is guidance for every detail of getting setup in an online service. There are especially good chapters on how to handle sex online, e-mail etiquette, and safety tips to consider when meeting people. The authors point out that unhealthy experience can happen, but they emphasize that most experiences are positive when common-sense precautions are taken. They recommend taking a long time with e-mail as the best way to get to know people before moving on to telephone or in-person contact because, they say, it is easier to get more personal and even intimate in thoughtful e-mails than it is in more direct personal contact.
As a veteran of online dating, I thought this book would bore me, but I was wrong. It is very entertaining, especially when the authors speak in their own separate voices and disagree with each other. They say their guidance is based on hundreds of interviews with online daters as well as their own personal experience which culminated in a long-distance romance. If you want advice that is practical and very readable, this book is for you.
Gordon Scott Edwards, author of Internet Safari, Finding Love Online At 65
16 of 16 people found the following review helpful.
Easy and Good, but NOT ALL ANSWERS!!!
By T. Marshall
I liked this book, but it isn't a book of answers. However, if you are a newbie to online dating, it helps a lot to read this book.
Most online daters have no clue what they are doing. The successful ones that you see on TV (doing eharmony commercials) are the lucky ones. That's why this book helps. It first gives you the low down on online dating and why it is completely different from real world dating. Since it is so different, everyone needs to take a different approach to it. Surprisingly, not everyone does.
How many times have you winked at someone and not recieved a response? How many profiles have you read that say, "I don't know what to write?" How many emails have you sent out that just didn't work?
Well, this book explains why these things happen in online dating.
However, it isn't a book of answers. It won't tell you what the perfect profile is, but will give you hints on how to write one. It won't tell you what the best picture is, but it will tell you not to post the same one twice. Treat it as a guide and you will be fine. Treat it as "the way" and you're in trouble.
For me, I was very excited to try online dating and would go online everyday to find new connections. After reading this book, I realized online dating is not a quick and easy way to find the love of my life (like eharmony advertises), but it is more of a long haul and it requires more work than I thought. This book really helped me realize that I needed to work at online dating much like real world dating.
6 of 7 people found the following review helpful.
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Outdated for advice on internet dating
With a copywrite date of 2004, this book is outdated for someone looking to start internet dating in the year 2012. Eight years of advancements in electronics and internet connectivity leave this "how to" guide in need of a serious update. Some of the most popular internet dating sites in 2012 are not even mentioned in this book simply because they didn't exist when this book was published.
On the plus side, the book is full of good advice and real world experiences from the two authers who both did the internet dating thing when it was still relatively new and untried. If you know absolutely nothing about a computer, email, chat rooms and other types of social sites on the world wide web, then this book will be a good investment for you. If you consider yourself technically savy and comfortable with all things related to the internet, you may find yourself skipping entire chapters but the book is still worth the read for all the practical advice it offers from both a male and female perspective.
Overall the book was a quick read as are all the books in the "for dummies" series. It's a bit basic for someone who is already comfortable with the internet but it does cover all the basics. It needs updated to reflect internet dating in the year 2012 but I am glad I read it.