Chances are, you've heard about Internet dating from a friend, or an online banner ad has caught your eye. If you've given online dating a passing consideration, you may have some fears from all those graphic horror stories that jar your senses – and your sensibilities. Or you may think that meeting people via the Internet is only for the disenfranchised or socially unskilled.
From their own experiences, 20 million people can tell you otherwise. Online Dating For Dummies will get you off the fence and on the Internet dating path – with the skill of a seasoned pro. Like your best friend, this fun reference will give you the straight scoop on
- Gearing up with the right computer hardware
- Overcoming preconceived notions of who is online
- Talking the online lingo
- Enjoying conversation in chat rooms
- Considering date site options
- Establishing your screen identity
- Facing the consequences of not posting a photo
Internet dating is growing at double-digit rates every year, while other forms of finding a connection are flat or falling off. Internet dating, although far from perfect, is becoming the most effective and efficient method of getting introduced to a large number of available singles. Online Dating For Dummies shows you how to get your feet wet and how to dive in, making informed choices and exercising good judgment as you
- Sign up for a trial run on a dating site
- Try to describe yourself for your personal profile
- Initiate your first e-mail contact
- Make your first in-person meeting memorable
- Identify frauds and players
- Figure out what not to do if you really want to meet someone
Jumping into online dating with no preparation at all is possible – but not practical. If you follow the techniques in this friendly guide, your odds of meeting great potential matches will greatly improve, and you'll have far more fun in the process.
- Amazon Sales Rank: #290778 in Books
- Brand: Brand: For Dummies
- Published on: 2003-11-21
- Original language:
- Number of items: 1
- Dimensions: 9.30" h x
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- Binding: Paperback
- 312 pages
- ISBN13: 9780764538155
- Condition: New
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"...covers strategies for success, including how to choose an agency, respond to potential dates and cultivate a relationship on-line..." (Aberdeen Press & Journal, Dec 03)
From the Back Cover
Know the lingo, post a photo, and make a date
Date online and find the perfect mate
Looking for that special someone? This friendly guide provides practical, proven strategies for everything from selecting the right dating site and establishing your Internet identity to building your profile and protecting your privacy. You’ll see how to easily make the transition from e-mail to phone to meeting in person.
Includes special offers* from these dating sites:
- Yahoo! Personals: 25% off the first month
- match.com: Free 10-day trial
- AmericanSingles.com: Buy one month, get a second month free
- JDate.com: Buy a three-month subscription, get a fourth month free
- Emode.com: Free 7-day trial
- lavalife.com: Free sign-up, plus a 25% bonus on a first purchase
- one2onematch.com: $20 off a VIP membership
- date.com: one, free trial membership
*See back of book pages for details and terms of each offer
Discover how to:
- Choose an online dating service
- Write an honest, flattering description
- Respond to potential dates
- Know who the frauds are
- Cultivate a relationship online
- Stay safe when meeting face-to-face
About the Author
Judith Silverstein, MD, and Michael Lasky, JD, not only wrote this book together, but they actually found each other through online dating.
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0 of 0 people found the following review helpful.
Excellent book despite the title!
By M. Gayton
Having recently re-entered the dating pool after many years and having only gone on intuition in my previous dating experiences I decided that this time I would educate myself on the subject first. This book is full of invaluable information not only on how to look at the dating process, but more importantly on how to look at yourself, your needs, and if what you think you want conflicts with what you are (or not.)
Her chapters on self-assessment and confidence are useful even if you aren't dating. I would recommend this book to anyone, single or in a relationship, though they do have one in the series specifically for relationships. Her writing style is done with a light touch, is well thought out, clear, and heartfelt.
With the help of this book dating has gone from a horrific chore that must be endured to an activity that is enjoyable, exciting, and regardless of outcome becomes a treasured experience. I only wish this book had been available when I was much younger!
4 of 4 people found the following review helpful.
Online Dating for Dummies - a ROCK SOLID Dating Book
By April Braswell
As a Dating and Relationship expert and coach, I make a point of reading a lot, and I mean a lot of dating and relationship books. "Online Dating for Dummies," is really good. It's another great rock solid book from the fantastic "For Dummies" series of books from Wiley.
Singles who are super sophisticated from certain metro areas like Seattle, LA, New York, and San Francisco might turn up their noses at the section which talks about what kind of computer needs you will have. However, when leading a Seminar in Las Vegas with daters who are less technologically savvy than the tech elite, indeed, some don't even have a computer at home. What I so appreciate in the "For Dummies" series is how thorough they are about covering at topic and indeed addressing it as "A Reference for the Rest of Us!"
What is so unique and marvelous about OLD4D is that the co-authors are a now-married couple who, yes, met each other via internet dating. Now, yes, the book came out in 2003. And certain tips and tactics of online dating seem to change every 6-18 months. So will every single word of this book still pertain to internet dating now? No. Is this still an excellent book with page upon page of useful and relevant information pertinent for current online dating? YES!
Throughout the book, Silverstein and Lasky provide their female perspective and male perspective on, everything, and I mean everything including a full (tastefully addressed, still retaining a PG13 rating)chapter devoted to Sex. Their providing their Female/Male personal perspectives is part of what makes OLD4D unique and engaging.
OLD4D is chock full of step-by-step instructions about going online, remaining safe, and pursuing internet love that it is completely worth your time and money and get a copy, read it, and implement it.
14 of 14 people found the following review helpful.
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Easy and Good, but NOT ALL ANSWERS!!!
By T. Marshall
I liked this book, but it isn't a book of answers. However, if you are a newbie to online dating, it helps a lot to read this book.
Most online daters have no clue what they are doing. The successful ones that you see on TV (doing eharmony commercials) are the lucky ones. That's why this book helps. It first gives you the low down on online dating and why it is completely different from real world dating. Since it is so different, everyone needs to take a different approach to it. Surprisingly, not everyone does.
How many times have you winked at someone and not recieved a response? How many profiles have you read that say, "I don't know what to write?" How many emails have you sent out that just didn't work?
Well, this book explains why these things happen in online dating.
However, it isn't a book of answers. It won't tell you what the perfect profile is, but will give you hints on how to write one. It won't tell you what the best picture is, but it will tell you not to post the same one twice. Treat it as a guide and you will be fine. Treat it as "the way" and you're in trouble.
For me, I was very excited to try online dating and would go online everyday to find new connections. After reading this book, I realized online dating is not a quick and easy way to find the love of my life (like eharmony advertises), but it is more of a long haul and it requires more work than I thought. This book really helped me realize that I needed to work at online dating much like real world dating.